Getting to know your mentor or mentee
At THRIVE with mentoring we take a lot of care to match mentors with mentees based on their requirements. And after the chemistry meeting, the key task for the pairs is to get to know each other.
Mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. For the development of a close relationship, sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure is one of the most effective means. So how do you do that…Here’s a list of 10 questions based on psychologist Arthur Aron’s work that I have short-listed and repurposed for Thrive Mentors and Mentees.
- What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
- Name three things you think you and and me appear to have in common.
- For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
- Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
- What is your most treasured memory?
- When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
- Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
For those of you who are interested in the whole list of 36 questions, here’s the link.